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Saving A Relationship – 1st Step And Beyond

The first step in saving a relationship is to determine if it is worth saving. Do you still love each other? If the answer is yes then, by any means possible, try to save it.

There are no doubt walls have built up between you. Whatever the reason is for those walls to have been built, get rid of them. If this is going to work you must both agree to start with a clean slate and just forget about what brought you here to begin with. Everything will get worked out in time.

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Time. Your relationship did not get this bad overnight and it will not get fixed overnight either. So, understand that if it is to be fixed it will take some time. The sooner you start, the sooner your relationship will be back to normal.

Try to look at the situation from your partner’s point of view. This will give you a new perspective on the problem or problems affecting things so negatively. Too often when things start to go bad, one or both people in the relationship go into what they think is survival mode and figure it is every man or woman for themselves. You stop working and thinking as a team. No relationship can survive without teamwork.

The best way to get your partner’s perspective on the relationship is to sit down with them and ask them what they think. Never be so presumptuous as to insist you know what your partner is thinking. You could be dead wrong and that would only make things worse.

So, when first inviting your partner to sit and talk about saving a relationship, make sure that any ego or pride is left at the door. Remember the saying, “Pride doth before the fall.” Make up your mind, do you want your pride or do you want your partner? You most likely cannot have both. If you choose your pride then your relationship will fall.

Set the ground rules for your talk. First, let your partner have the floor and let them get everything out on the table. Show your partner some respect and do not comment or interrupt them when they are speaking. Wait patiently for your turn and then focus only on the issues at hand. Take notes if you need to so you can respond to whatever it is they want to say.

Stay cool, calm, and collected, do not get angry at them for voicing their opinions and make sure when it is your turn they know that they should do the same. The only way this will be effective is if the hurt and anger stays at the door with the pride.

Whatever the issues are talk each one through to a solution. Do not leave anything unresolved. This may mean you must have more than one session with each other. Do not get too busy for these sessions, make appointments if you need to and stick to them. Anything that gets left behind will just fester like a splinter in your finger and pretty soon the infection will spread to the bloodstream of the relationship and your relationship will die from sepsis.

Saving a relationship takes time and effort on both parts. Taking the time and making the effort shows each other you are committed to doing what needs to be done to keep your relationship strong.

If you want to see more articles in how to save your relationship check these out: Save Your Relationship and How To Improve Your Relationship.

If you want some sample love letters check these out: Love Letters For Him, and Love Letters For Her.

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About John Jones

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This is How to Get Your Ex Wife Back

You may not realize it, but no matter how badly you messed up and how much you hurt your ex-wife, it still may be possible to get your ex-wife back.  I’m not saying that it will be easy or that it will be quick, but it may be possible.

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You just have to decide if you are truly wiling to invest the time and effort it will take to do what is necessary to win her back.

If you can’t really commit to the process totally you really should consider letting her go and find happiness.

If you start down the road and you aren’t able to take it all the way you will only get your hopes, and her hopes, up and you will both be disappointed. I’m not sure that you really want to put yourself through that.

OK, you’re still reading so I guess that means that you’re willing to do whatever it takes to prove to your ex that you’re a changed man and that you still love her and want her back.

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You need to become a changed man.  Lip service and hollow promises aren’t going to work anymore. It’s time to suck it up and put your money where your mouth is. Time to change.

Step one of the process is figuring out what you need to change. This may sound easy but it’s actually one of the hardest things to do because it requires you to look at yourself with complete honesty and many times we don’t totally like what we see.

There is a free video at the bottom of the article that has tips that has helped thousands of husbands get their ex-wife back.

If you really want to get your ex-wife back you need to figure out what to change.

If you’re not totally sure what you need to do, just think back to when the two of you were married. What did you argue about?

More than likely your ex told you the things that you said or did ( or didn’t say or do) that caused her hurt and pain. That is a great place for you to start.

When she tried to tell you how she felt did you listen? Or did you get angry and defensive and feel like she didn’t love you?

That’s a common response many people have. They somehow take it personally when their spouse tries to let them know how they’re feeling. When your ex told you she felt a certain way about something, it’s about her, not you.

If you really can’t figure the problem out and you can’t really find anyone to ask, you might want to spend a few sessions with a therapist.

I know, most people find this prospect daunting ( a lot of people won’t admit it’s daunting they tend to use terms like ‘a waste of time’ or ‘b.s.’ but in reality they’re really just scared of what they may hear).

Anyway, a therapist can help you cut through all your own issues and will show you the things you need to see but aren’t quite able to see on your own.

This process really is the only way you can do what needs to be done to finally
get your ex-wife back.

Here is the link to the free Video :

http://howtowinrelationships.org/getwifeback-video

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About John Jones

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